{Advice} Q. Getting around ‘not inviting those unwanted guests’.
A. Managing your guest list is uber important, late additions are a nightmare to fit in and chasing up RSVP’s are a total pain in the arse! To avoid the mischief of the headache and all the rest of it here is some words of wisdom for you.
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There are two different approaches depending on how you feel and what culture you veer towards.
If you take up more of an English view and are planning a small wedding then you have the right to say that you just do not have the space to bring your second cousin’s new girlfriend of 2 months. You can say that you just cannot afford to squeeze in anymore guests but would love to get together for drinks afterwards.
If you take on an Asian view then there are a number of scenarios that could lead to a multitude of separate scenarios.
- If your parents are sharing the costs, then have the discussion whether it is within their budget to squish an extra person.
- And look at your seating chart, is there room for one more person, or will you have to bring in a completely new table and invite a few more to fill it. It is likely that from an Asian point of view, there is always room for more. Ensure you do the math, make sure your guests aren’t going to be squeezed onto a small table – comfort is everything.
Common mistake – no matter what view you take – Don’t feel guilty for saying no: If you explain that you have had to shorten your guest list and because of a restrained budget and ensure you let them know that you will go out for drinks with all those that could not make it. You will find that those distant friends or twice removed cousins will be more than understanding.
Avoiding these situations: After drawing up a draft list of your guest list, make a few calls to those you cannot invite before they catch wind! That way you are a step ahead and they will appreciate you letting them know. (Nobody likes to be that person who gets missed off the list and finds out through facebook)
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Keeping you inspired (& sane)!!
Rachyeta xxx
